WHAT’S IN YOUR BOX?

Is There Something You're Missing?

Alzheimer’s. The word left Charlie’s mouth and hung in the air of the pick-up truck like the smoke of his many cigarettes. Charlie was my foreman during summer months while in college. Raised on a New England farm, groomed in the Navy and wizened by the school of ‘hard knocks’, Charlie taught me the value of life, people, family, and work. Years and years after this conversation, I went to visit Charlie at his home. He didn’t remember me but smiled and asked me if I wanted to see the boat he’d won at a raffle recently. Inside his home the large Navy air carrier in it’s display case, stretched from one side of the room to the other in its full glory.  I experienced the privilege of being in that room because of a commitment made years earlier.museum pic

I’m sharing this story because it’s a reminder to me that it’s the limits in life that make it magical. You see, I’d met Charlie because I made the decision to get inside of the box. There were beaches beckoning to me during those summers, noon-time sleep-ins, and long, lazy afternoons with friends, but I chose to work. And I’m glad I did. Those days were some of the toughest in my life up until that point. Inside the box, I ran a Jack Hammer for eight hours straight, some days….no exaggeration. To the older guys I was the ‘college kid’. You get the idea.

But the mantra today is to think outside the box, to live outside the box, to work outside the box, to do ministry outside the box. But whatever happened to working inside the box? Quite possibly, the world is waiting for some people to get back inside of the box. To love inside the box, to dream inside the box, to make love….Maybe in our attempt to be innovative, we’re traveling a well-worn highway, not a customized path. Maybe it’s time to go against the grain and get back inside the box.

The Book of Lamentations, chapter 3, verse 27  says: “It is good for a man that he bear the yoke in his youth.” The implication is that restraints, boundaries, repetition and limits help, not hurt, people in their younger years.

Furthermore, Natural resources do better inside a box. Coal has no power unless it’s put in the box. Niagara Falls supplies tremendous amounts of light and energy but first it must get put in a box. Gasoline has awesome potential, but first it must be put inside the box.

Show me someone who has everywhere before them and I’ll show you someone who is making an impact nowhere. To make an impact, somewhere is our best destination, not anywhere. -Cory MacNeil

We all need a box. Acorns have to get inside the box. People live inside of the box. Employees submit to the box. And at the end of the day if we want people to know where we are, we choose to be buried in a box.

Forest Gump was wrong when he said: “Life is like a box of chocolates….you never know which one you’re gonna get.” Get inside the box and you’ll have an idea of what you’re going to get. Read the insert Forest. The Orange Caramel is right next to the English Nougat.

We spend so much time thinking outside of the box, that we forget the value of working inside the box. Like many areas of life it’s not a case of either/or, but both. Jesus told the story of two men. One said he would get inside the box and didn’t. The other man said he wouldn’t get inside the box, but did. Which one do you think Jesus blessed.

The box is healthy. Limitations are healthy. Rules are healthy as long as there is a relationship. Rules without relationship lead to rebellion. We don’t live in a random world based on chance and luck. We live in a world based on laws and principles. Thankfully, there are less train wrecks in the world and more meltdowns. Providence honors hard work over long periods of time. She also insures things usually fizzle out rather than blow up. Recognize the long downhill slide and you can get out of the boat before it hits the water.

A few personal boxes ensure health and well being. If you get inside the box and refuse to eat in the evening, you’ll experience greater freedom. If you get inside the box when your co-worker is disagreeable the quality of your relationship with them will improve over time rather than burst. It’s not commitment we need to fear, it’s our future we need to fear if we’re not willing to commit to some purpose greater than ourselves.

It is not commitment we need to fear, it’s our future we need to fear if we’re not willing to commit to some purpose greater than ourselves. -Cory MacNeil

One day after Elementary school I found that my Hermit Crab had crawled out of his shell. Parents teach kids that animals shouldn’t suffer. People can suffer and kids can suffer, but animals can’t. So, I did what any self-respecting kid would do. I ended the suffering. If I remember correctly there was a rock involved. In hindsight, I wonder what would have happened if I found my Hermit Crab a bigger shell. We’ll never fear the box once we realize that God can always give us a bigger box once we outgrow the one we’re in.

A man named Jabez prayed for a bigger box and God blessed his prayer. 2 Chronicles 4:10 says: “And Jabez called on the God of Israel, saying, Oh that Thou Wouldst bless me indeed, and enlarge my coast, and that Thine hand might be with me, and that Thou wouldest keep me from evil, that it may not grieve me! And God granted him that which he requested.” There is life and joy and peace inside the box that can’t be found anywhere else.

What if you believed the box you’re in is perfectly designed and suited for you at this very moment? In our pursuit of what’s outside the box we forget about what’s in the box and how God can use it if He so chooses! -Cory MacNeil

Two parents decided to teach their young son that there are tough realities in life, so they went to the garden center and bought him a bag of horse manure for his Birthday. On the big day as the family looked on, the grandmother held her nose and asked her grandson, “What did you get?  What did you get?” The young boy answered with excitement, “I don’t know, but I think there’s a pony in there somewhere!”

Friend, the circumstances in your box might smell pretty bad right now. Maybe you lost your job this week. Maybe the test results came back different than you’d hoped. Maybe your marriage or a close relationship is headed south and you’re holding on with every last bit of grit and resolve. Whatever the case, I promise you there’s a pony in there somewhere. I met a Charlie in the box and that made all the difference in the world. What’s in your box?

 

How Much Does it Cost?

Is There a Better Question?

A few weeks ago after inviting someone to church, I was asked the following question: “Is it free?”  Maybe you’ve had the same conversation with someone.  It wasn’t the first time for me.   However, I still found myself giving the usual answer, “YES!”  But this time, my response got me thinking.  Why do I tell people church is free, when it’s not.  Let me explain.

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Although, as churches we are able to offer our services at no cost to visitors, someone is still paying.  Let that sink in for a moment.  No, visitors don’t pay.  However, there have been many people who have paid over the years and continue to pay.  In fact, these payers don’t just pay, in some cases they sacrifice!

The same is true of our country.  Right?  We experience the freedom we have today because of the countless people who paid for it with their own lives.  Because of their sacrifice, we have opportunities that few others in the world have.

Maybe you’re not a pastor, but you have a business and you’ve also been thinking about a better response when people ask the- Is it free question?  Or ‘How much does it cost?”  I’d love to hear your responses on Facebook and Twitter.  In the meantime, here’s an optional response.  Are you ready?

What if we responded by saying: “I believe a better question is ‘What is it worth?’  This kind of question provides opportunities to make people think.  Is it worth having a better marriage?  Is it worth having peace day and night, three hundred and sixty five days a year?  Is it worth having kids who grow up with a good solid foundation and a genuine faith to get them through the hard years?

These types of questions all boil down to value.  When someone asks us ‘Is it free?”, they generally are wondering what the minimum requirements are.  And for good reason.  Everywhere you go today, people are charging.  The insurance man wants your money.  The hardware store wants your money.  The car dealer wants your money.  You get the idea.  So when people come to church, they are often thinking it all boils down to money.

Imagine responding to the ‘How much does it cost?” question by saying something like this.  Yes, it costs a fortune!  But we love you and your family and we’re willing to fit the bill so that you can get in on all that God has for you.  We don’t ask the question ‘How much does it cost?”  We ask the question “How much is it worth?”  And we believe you’re worth it.  We’re willing to sacrifice our own comfort for yours.  We’re willing to sacrifice our time so that you and your family have a place where you can come and grow!

O.K- sounds like we’re laying it on a little thick, right?  You don’t have to use my words.  Come up with your own response.  Word it as you see fit.  However you word it, the point is there is tremendous value in the products and services we have to offer our customers.  When we tell them it’s free, there’s a part of them that knows that’s not true.  Lets start telling them the truth and leave the rest up to God.

I hope you are challenged by the “Is it free question”!  Ponder it for awhile and see what happens.  You might be surprised.  And when it comes time for your next purchase, ask yourself the “What is it worth?” question.  For example, is the safe vehicle worth the price I’m paying so that my family will be safe?  How much is the media equipment upgrade worth so that we can improve our visual presentation every week?  You all know the answer.

Many times, our investments provide priceless returns.  After all, how do you put a price tag on safety?  How do you put a price tag on quality?  How do you put a price tag on a relationship?

Lets not forget the founder of our faith and the awesome price He paid so that we could have a life that matters.  “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.  (John 3:16 KJV).

No, church is NOT free!  It costs a fortune, but….it’s worth it.

 

Go the Distance!

The #1 Reason People Succeed

As a pastor, I often meet people who are excited to make a change in their lives.  For awhile.  What usually happens is they find out that change doesn’t come easy and they drop out of the race.  Please, hear me out.  I’m not condemning anyone.  I’m all for change and the people who want it.  I just wish more people were successful.  It often saddens me to see people drop out of the race.

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Going the distance is NEVER easy.  Just ask anyone who’s tried.  I found this out personally when I started jogging three months ago.  All kinds of obstacles pop up.   There is the weather, aches and pains, fatigue, rationalizations….the list goes on and on.  In all honesty, some of the excuses are pretty good ones.

What if there’s an easier way.  I wish there was, but I’m sorry to tell you there isn’t!  That may sound harsh, but it’s true.  I have no EASY way to sell you.  If you’re going to achieve any amount of success and take your life to the next level, it’s going to take WORK.  The good news is once you realize this, business begins to pick up.

One thing you can do is anticipate the obstacles and have a game plan.  Don’t just assume the goal will come easy.  Put a plan in place to move through your challenges when they arise.  The best plan is to plan on running your course.  Determine ahead of time that you are going to go the extra mile.  Never forget that good things take time.  It may have taken you years to get into the mess you’re in now, so don’t expect a quick fix over night.  When I suggest spending time, I’m not suggesting a day or a week, or a month, we’re talking years!

We’ve all heard stories about persistence.  Maybe you’ve heard this one.  A man moved to California and bought mining equipment.  After mining for Gold awhile, unsuccessfully, he sold all of his equipment.  You can probably imagine what happened.  The guy who bought the equipment went to the same mine and drilled only a short distance before hitting the motherlode.  This simple story highlights the importance of going the distance.  Success rarely comes easy and when it does it tends to fade away quickly.

The truth is you never know how close you are to reaching your next milestone.  This principle applies to health, fitness, self-improvement, discipleship, leadership, etc.  As Jim Collins says: “It’s hard to get the fly-wheel moving, but once you do, momentum takes over.”

Ironically, the people achieving true success are usually the ones who look like they’re making very little or no progress at all.  They go to the gym on a regular basis, save money a little at a time,  read books and listen to weekly sermons and podcasts.  By all looks and appearances, you’d say these people are going nowhere quickly!

If you’re looking to achieve your dreams and move further faster in your life, don’t expect for a moment that you’ll only need this one post.  I encourage you to commit to an extended subscription, be it six months or a year.  Rome wasn’t built in a day and you can’t expect to fix all our your problems in one week.  If you’re going to progress, it’s going to take endurance.  Go the distance!